Musing

True story

I was in a triangle once. Calm down saints, I didn’t know in the beginning. And when i did, i was way too invested to pull out easily.
The storyline is way too familiar.. so I will spare you the embarrassing details.

I was young then, so it took a while for me to learn one ultimate truth: passion, no matter how intense, cannot right a wrong.

Gosh the emotional trauma.
I always felt i had the incomplete him. Like no matter how ‘happy’ we were, a part of him was somewhere. I didn’t have full ownership.
It took a lot of self-love, counseling and maturity for me to leave. Despite all his efforts to make me stay in his entanglement, I didn’t.
I don’t care what a man says, if he feels stepping out on a committed relationship is right, he’s not a good prize.
Do not let your fear make you choose disrespect over being ‘alone’. A man you can ‘take’ from another is a man who can be ‘taken’ from you. Whatever he decides is not on you.. you have a decision to make. To walk away. You can. And you should, even when you do not want to.

Let’s not normalize being side chicks.
Hagar may have met an angel but she birthed no promise child.

Especially in the Christian circle, i will say it again and again, where there’s a major lack of mentorship a lot of mistakes are made. Or maybe we know, but we’re just stubborn because we didn’t hear it from God directly.
But let’s be real;
It’s not God’s idea that saints in relationships have sides.

I know it’s ‘hard’ but maybe it’s because your idea of love is flawed in itself. You need to let go of your idea of what is good for you and accept your reality.

Accept and submit. Don’t say you’re letting God write your story and secretly hope that he will give you the story you’re writing in your head. The story of another woman’s man.
God of love is also God of principle.

Purpose to be faithful. It starts by choosing to be faithful to yourself and the any other woman in the entanglement you’re in. And surround yourself with people who aren’t afraid to tell you the truth. Emotions do not make great decisions.
If I’m totally honest, you deserve better. Choose to do better.
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