Asexual
‘Human beings are sexual beings’. Touché!!!
We are as much sexual as we are thirsty, hungry, sleepy and all the thousand more natural desires we have.
Question is why have we brought sexuality to the open?? Like it was an armour of strength; a source of pride. “I’m confident in my sexuality “ 🤔 uhhh… what is up with that? Are you confident in your hunger? ☹️
Dear YMC ( young millenial Christian), as a matter of fact, dear Sheyla looking at yourself in the mirror, don’t be deceived that your sexuality is something to be discovered yourself. As though a maze God put in your body, leaving you without clues to navigate. Don’t be deceived thinking God didn’t know what He was doing when He allowed you to start experiencing sexual feelings at adolescence.
What cruelty would that be, if He did. Whatever your first exposure to sex was, God had a plan regardless. Maybe your parents failed to raise you up in that respect in wisdom, forgive them. But I strongly believe you weren’t supposed to discover the truth about sex and your body on man-made TV.
I wish I knew how and what God planned to speak to me about sexuality. That opportunity is long lost but I promise to do better for my kids; to listen closely for instructions lest they be deceived.
Forgive me, I went on a rant there!
My point is, why are we allowing the world to teach us that sexuality is something to wear proudly. A crown of success once we discover the satisfaction in it.
It’s a shame really, how proud we feel to boast of our sexual prowess. ‘Be confident in your sexuality’. ‘Avoid the shame associated with sex’. ‘Why are women sex-shamed and men aren’t?’
And in a world of women empowerment gone terribly wrong, we are teaching girls to become aware of their sexual desires; not be ashamed of them; and taking a step further to express it.
How confusing it must be for an adolescent girl today!! Imagine, being encouraged to speak up about how sexual you feel. Speak up in your dressing, in the angles of your pictures patterned after social celibrities. Imagine being told it is absolutely okay to discover and express yourself sexually; yet shamed when your expression exceeds a certain number of boys!!!
I imagine how confused they must be! They see sex literally EVERYWHERE !! And what about the young boys? Who can’t go anywhere without seeing naked women.
How do they navigate through the confusion of finding out why their bodies are responding in the night. How sex is forbidden in the church circle, but abounding everywhere else?
And where is the line drawn? Reconciling their budding desire with the two extremities in current society: either denying completely the existence of their budding needs because they were never taught about it, introduced to it by other ways but in the wisdom of a Godly parent, OR expressing totally their sexual needs in diverse ways of promiscuity.
You think what you went through, discovering your body was weird enough, imagine what it must be for these young ones.
Needless to say, the church may have lagged terribly in this department. But it’s okay. The onus lies on you now, dear YMC, to go back to your closet and have discussions with God in private about your sexual desires. For the sake of your children, please learn from the One who created it, so you may teach them in wisdom.
I believe strongly, you’ll discover, that just like your other desires, it is a natural desire that must be honed, that must be trained to come under self-control.
You dear young millenial Christian getting closer to God everyday, you must not be shy to talk to God about sex. He prefers that you would talk to Him rather than tell the world that you are sexual!
We don’t need to know that you are sexual. Don’t follow the world, talking about ‘be confident in your sexuality, if you’re feeling sexy, show it in what your wear’; and then get upset when you attract a certain ‘natural desire’ of men. #slutshaming
What confusion! ‘I can wear a short skirt, but nobody should lust after me’
‘I can post a nude, but nobody should slide in my DMs talking about sleeping with me’ ‘They should be able to see past the cleavage into my soul, my personality ‘
‘I’m not doing it because I want the attention of a man, but because I’m feeling confident in my body, my sexuality ‘
Smh
Have you thought about the young man??
He probably has a skewed perception about sex due to how introduced he was to it. So why do you blame him if he thinks it’s okay to lust after you openly, to also ‘express’ his desires in your DM.
Have we thought about them? That they are equally grownup young boys who were as confused as us, who are also trying to navigate through the sexual discovery maze.
Needless to say, the world is confused about sex. And rightly so, because it did not create it.
1 Cor 6:19
What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?
…to be continued….
Sheyla